Why Is Submissiveness Glorified?

There is an Instagram Reel Sound floating around with the quote: If you can tell me what to do, you can tell me what to do. But you can’t tell me what to do if you can’t tell me what to do. And I have opinions. Obviously.

The idea that I’ll allow someone to tell me what to do makes me visibly cringe. Why is it that women glorify powerful men that want to control them. Having a dominant partner in that way instead of an equal partner just means you are allowing yourself to be controlled.

Now, I may get shit from men about this in the way that I have in the past;
You just want to be the dominant one
You don’t respect men then
That’s the man’s place is to be the provider
You should just stay single — my personal favorite.

But here’s the thing — men want equal partnership AND to be submitted to at the same damn time. It’s an impossible standard to live by. I’m going to use my personal experience as I do normally because it’s all I know.

My ex wanted me to be submissive in every way to him. Cook him dinner, do his laundry, be the perfect home-maker. But when I asked him if I can take a part time job instead of full time so I can focus on him and our home, he said the exact words “I thought you were a feminist, don’t you want to work and earn an equal pay as me? No, you can’t work part time. I can’t support that”