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The Reality of Long-Term Relationships
When does it become long term?
I started dating this guy, the same guy I picked up from jail. The one I fell in love in under 172 days. The one who met my family and I was certain was the one…
Him.
I lost a friendship over him, which was weird and hard at the same time. Sure, homies before boyfriends — but in this case, she was trying to break us up because of a crush she had on him that she hadn’t disclosed before him and I met. So there’s that.
But how is it going? Now that it’s been well over a year?
It get’s a little boring.
We spend a lot of time together. For the simple fact that we enjoy each other’s company. Even in the most mundane tasks. He sits on the couch while I sit on the recliner while we watch two separate shows, him on the TV and me on my iPad.
I walk the dog, he goes to the gym. I go to the gym, he sits in the sauna. But in life, we’re together and it’s wonderful.
We fight less.
Sometimes you’d think it would be the opposite but as we start to understand each other more, we argue less. There are less conversations about how to treat each other and there is a lot less to teach each other about our traumas and responses.
With time comes knowledge. I think this is the key.
