I Deleted My Dating Apps on Valentines Day

and man did it feel good.

I didn’t delete them because I’m focusing on “the one” but I deleted them for a multitude of other reasons. Let’s start with 3.

They brought me more stress than joy

I would find myself mindlessly swiping at 11pm, 2am, and 3pm. All times of the day and night I should be doing something else. I hated having to come up with conversation starters — or hold a conversation all on my own because the person I’m talking to is boring.

And then there was the every dreadful “ghosting” before we even set a date to meet in person. Did I say something wrong or did you just pause your account? I always thought the conversations were going pretty well in those situations.

The people on dating apps never really knew what they wanted

I think more than twice a week and every other match would say “I’m looking for friends” and I have a huge problem with that.

Why do men and women look for friends of the opposite sex solely on apps that are made for hookups and relationships? Those people don’t want friendship, they want sex — so say that.

Or the dreaded, “I want to be friends first and then develop a relationship.” My personal hell. Once I develop friendly feelings for someone — I stop seeing them as a potential intimate partner and the relationship aspect is clear off the table.