How To be His Dream Girl

Because we need another article on how to charm the pants off men? No.

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My boyfriend said to me as he fell asleep last night that I was his dream girl and that kept me up almost all night. As I was thinking about what I could have done to make him think that. And I realized two things that were major in our relationship.

I was truly and authentically myself.

I cry, I laugh, I ache, I have a set schedule. I don’t do anything that I don’t want to. I speak properly and sometimes I don’t speak at all. I’m also a lot of fun. Goofy, a little weird, anything you can think of and everything in between.

I made a point early on to not hide myself for him. But to make sure that he saw all of me from the very beginning. Something I hadn’t done before. I would hide who I was to be who someone wanted me to be. That’s not the answer. It never is. And who they think they want, is never enough.

You have to be enough for you to be enough for them. The way I see it is fight or flight. Either you fight for you to be enough for you, or they flee. Get it?

I just asked my boyfriend if he could be with me if I wasn’t comfortable with myself and his answer was more simple than I thought it would be.

Not at all.